So i broke up with my girlfriend today, 11 months and 30 days of dating. For some reason the last three days she just wanted to fight and pretty much test me to see how much i could handle. Some can say it's just a year, but to me it feels like a decade of dating.

It sucks. Tomorrow would have been our 1 year anniversary.

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Waiting that extra day would probably have made it worse.

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Last october, i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years because she was the super jealous type and she'd complain if we didnt spent every waking moment together...

We fought and had angry sex for 2 months untill i found out from her best friend that some guy 10 years older recruited her to join the army(and they were secretly dating). I got into this jealous rage and begged her to take me back. We had this notebook that we shared all of our little love notes and funny stories together. Sort of like a diary for our relationship only I never wrote in it because I thought it was gay. Anyways, i wrote like a 10 page letter to her and about 10 love-song lyrics in the notebook as a last ditch effort to get her back.

We got back together but she joined the army anyway. Fastforward 3 months and she breaks up with me because she wants to enjoy her military career on her own... single. She still calls me about once a week and now that I am home from college, it's my first time being in my room since our breakup. Her toys, pictures, teddybears, notes, and even her clothes are everywhere. You look around my house and you'd think she lived there. She's even in my family photos...


Moral Of the Story: Toughen up soldier, things could be worse.

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Or be like me and let your loneliness flare into a blaze of general disdain for those things with vaginas.

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Some stories can't be told with words, some legends are meant to die

Love sucks. Harden Your heart. It's not till you loose everything untill you relize you can do anything...

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dont mind me I just get chased by japanese girls.

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great quote tal.

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i dated this one girl for a year, then i broke up with her and we never really talked after that. now almost a year has past since then and i might move in with her, in the next few weeks.

Oh well...

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ahaha what is this, the anime morals thread?

give it some time, she might have a change of heart. If you guys really care about eachother you will realize it and come together again. Shit always feels horrible when there's a fight, but it usually gets rectified. Hope things work out, pm me or whatever if you need someone to talk to, I knows how it goes.

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"Love" is the most misuderstood emotion in the world. People who believe in fate, true-love, love at first sight and all that crap are just a bunch of retarded idealist.

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Love at first sight is the biggest load of bullshit in the world lol. I've had arguments with so many stupid girls about it. I've had 2 different girls try and tell me they loved me at first sight.

I'm sorry to hear about that Kioto. Depression from a relationship is the worst fucking thing in the world. 1 year is a pretty long time. I've only lasted that long with 1 girl my entire life, and I'm almost 26. Most of my relationships don't last more than a couple months, because I get irritated with girls very easily, and I don't stick around lol.

I've been single for almost 3 years and it's been great. I just hook up or date haha. I honestly wouldn't be opposed to having a steady girlfriend. As long as she isn't a gold digging whore.

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How can there be love at first sight when love is blind?

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[In Yarr we trust.]

i believe in love at first titty caress

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Not to sound corny.

But you'll only really know you love someone when your going to lose them. Depends on your reaction then you can tell. Love is very real, and it comes in many different forms.

You have to judge for yourself how much this was worth to you, and you also have to remember that if it was so easy for her to let you go then maybe she isn't your "other half"

Some more than others go thru a very harsh time in their lives. ( big lol at me i guess) And i've learned something from it all. When it rains it pours.

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nah it's when you use love to take the girl's virgin, Then dump her for other virgin.

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Thanks for sympathy guys, i appreciate all the replies. I think i made this post up to just hear what you guys had to say about love and relationships on its own, and i got exactly what i wanted; loads of thoughts. Most if not all of you wouldn't understand my situation, my feelings towards my girlfriend surpasses "love at first sight", "fate" and "true love". Frankly i'm partially at "fault" when it comes to this particular relation; i set a plot to basically have a reason for her to break up with me. Evil might you say? Yes, but for our own good. Making a story short, "carol" has been over my house for most of the year, if she is to leave the house for a night, it's because she has to (which is rare -- once every 2 weeks maybe). I became addicted to having her over and doing things together, from daily chores to shopping and helping her study, i felt uneasy if he wasn't sleeping there next to me or wasn't available to help me decide something. I did not depend on her, but it was sad when she wasn't there.

At the age of 20, i'm not ready to be this in-depth and attached with someone simply because i'm scared, not scared to be with her or of losing her or depending on her, but scared of how close we got in such little time. I kick myself when i think about how i'm throwing this out the window, but at the same time i'm tapping myself on the shoulders for doing a smart thing and going forward alone. Having such a strong attachment to carol, i couldn't bring myself to breaking up with her, not because i'm weak or independent, but because it hurts me more then it would hurt her (metaphorically speaking), i just couldn't do it on my own.

My plot backfired though, as i thought she would get mad at something i did and maybe try to break up with me, but she was really forgiving and cared not for what i had done (nothing serious really, just tried pushing myself away a little), but then she though i was cheating on her and it wasn't the way i had planned things to go, so i tried fixing and explaining to her what i was doing without admitting to have attempted to piss her off. Questions were never ending and doubts from her poured like water, i didn't want to look bad and didn't want to seem like a bad person, but maybe i deserved it. In the end i had to do what i did not wan't to do, and when i broke up with her (with a very shitty excuse mind you) i felt the pain, i still feel like the ass of the planet and if that wasn't enough, i have a void which was created by me, for a reason which is shameful.

Sorry for the long post, i'm not much of a writer, just saying what i feel, and i feel like a monster.

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Yeah that was a really dickish thing to do

I've dropped a girl on her ass before, I've been dropped on my own ass before. I've grown to understand these things happen for reasons I believe are kind of beyond my control. Hate to even use the word "fate" but if "it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be." I have learned people fall in and out of love, and I have thrown away a good thing before with reasons that seem a bit similar to yours, many of us have.

Truthfully I respect ya more for breaking it off now versus years down the road in a marriage or with kids or something, it shows that even though you may feel like a dick, it would be crueler to keep going when you weren't exactly happy or satisfied with your relationship. The only thing that really solves or resolves these issues unfortunately is time. A few months to even years apart when you are both "over it" you will see how much life really changes for people.

ponuh> I understand that i probably did come off as an ass or a dick, but my actions were not intended to be seen and interpreted as such, i didn't do anything wrong or should i say, anything bad (such as cheating or attempting to cheat, flirting or even being an ass to her at all). I did my best to treat her with the same respect used in the past year, all i did was drift away a little from seeing her everyday and txt'ing her all the time. I had the concept that if she broke up with me, maybe she wouldnt be as hurt, thinking she was doing the right thing could possibly make the break up easier. But that's just my way of thinking, and i could very well be wrong.

supafly> The marriage subject was in the air, specially when i saw or talked to her mom, made me very uncomfortable and she always knew, we didn't talk about it much because i avoided the subject at all cost. The last thing i want is a marriage, specially a marriage due to having a unexpected child. It's was hard to break up now, i can't imagine how it would be a year or two down the line.

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I very much believe in "love at first sight", or at least when I see a person, I can tell right away if they are the sort of person that I could one day love. I've never been able to fall in love with someone over time or by getting to know them.

As for the relationship stuff. I know how you feel. All of mine have been pretty long term. Longest was from age 17-21. The end of that was really hard for me and still is. The ending didn't really make much sense, but sometimes things just end. Since then I was able to move on a lot as person, develop new interests, learn new things, have fun in ways that I never would have been able to have if I had still been in it. But even though I got to experiance all those things, I still would have been just as content to still be in that relationship.
I think maybe there 3 things that can happen in a relationship... either you grow apart, grow together, or stop growing completely.
And another thing is when you stay together just cause it become dependable or comfortable. A lot of people end up breaking up because of that.
I dunno, I don't personally see what's wrong with being able to depend on someone or be comfortable around them. It's something special when you can develop that kind of trust with a person, trust is such a hard thing to do.
A lot of people aren't happy with being content and are also wondering what it that they could be missing, but I think people who are caring, loyal, and nice are really rare in the dating world. They shouldn't be thrown away so easily.
I also think that the perfect partner should be able to share in on the things you feel like your missing out on and be willing to share new things with you. I think maybe keeping a healthy relationship that remains exciting and working is to be able to talk and share what you want with each other, to have adventures, and do crazy shit together while trusting that you'll take care of each other in the end.

I think I may now revert back to my ways of blaming everything on the Media. We're always beening told to try new things and that there is also something better. But I don't think that's always going to be the case. Like to me, there is nothing better than CocaCola, no matter how much the commericals tell me otherwise.

But yeah. Things always get better with time. Time is everything I guess.

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The lovers, the dreamers, and me.

I am attracted to women when I first see them, but love at first sight is bullshit. I can know at first sight whether I would have sex with a girl or not usually, but love... thats just crazy. It takes me a while to get to know people as it is, and I have to really know someone pretty well to actually love them. I have only had that happen twice and both times it didn't end so well haha. I just need to stop dating evil bitches I guess, at least I don't try to get into serious relationships with them anymore.

I keep hearing there are supposed nice girls out there, I must be constantly looking in the wrong places haha (I swear I find the sluts at my parents church even). My problem is I am a nice guy who tries to force himself into being a dick because I know being a nice guy gets you nowhere. Eventually I am exposed when I apoligize for something or slip up otherwise and be myself. I know far too many women who date guys who are worthless pieces of shit, but say they just want to find a nice guy lol.

There are plenty of women out there and odds are you will find one that is more compatible with you eventually. That is pretty cliche to say, but its the way things are. It is almost impossible to break up and not hurt the other person at all. I doubt she is traumatized into hating men permanently.

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