I didn't know how to title this thread lol, so here goes:

My mom has this small mortgage office that she owns in a reletively small office building. Theres about 4-5 other small businesses that are run on our floor of the building. Theres not that many people in total who work in the building so basically you see the same faces in and out the office everyday.

Anyways, theres this pretty cute girl who works on our floor but shes a bitch to my mom and co-worker whenever they see eachother in the bathroom or elevator. They both said that she doesnt say hi or bye whenever they try to be nice and talk to her..

Fastforward to this morning where we both enter the elevator at the same time. She gives me a quick glance and starts asking me where I work and what I do. We have a really nice short conversation but the elevator stopped short to let a bunch more people in. I felt weird talking to her with other people there so I didnt really say anything.

Now I feel like a chicken-shit for not getting her number or anything, should i approach her next time I see her? And what do I say? Should I even bother? She looks like shes in her 20's and im only 19 in october, lol. Does that matter?

Ladies, what do you think? Am I overeacting to her just being nice? I just got out of a 2 year relationship so now I get all hott and bothered everytime a cute lady talks me....

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Be forward and genuine. As always, try not to come off as being cocky, confidence speaks for itself. Also, you shouldn't really conform to what others think and overreact to her sudden disposition to be friendly and approachable. If you're still interested, you should ask her to join you for a cup of coffee in starbucks the next time you meet. Once a strong friendship is established, the outcome is usually obvious.

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Just make her hate herself and she's yours.

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What LLewelyn said; just be normal and don't overdo it, don't beat around the bush too much and just be yourself. Don't ask for her number yet just try coffee first or lunch if she accepts she'll probably give you her number or ask for yours.

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Take your IPod to work, and next time she is in the elevator with you, play her 'love in an elevator' by aerosmith.

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I'm just a question knowing my answer,
hope I'm wrong.

Also, if she is a bitch to everyone else, she probably be a bitch to you eventually. Once a bitch, always a bitch lol. But give her the benifit of the doubt and see if she is actually a nice person inside. If she turns out to be a total bitch, make sure you nail her, and if you can get photos of it and spread it around the building, so she ends up quiting and can't be a bitch to anyone there anymore.

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Fairytale romance response and the logical reply to such a post. What the response should be. Some women go for this and some hate it.



The real response. Women love to be treated wrong (especially considering you said she's a bitch..). I'm a nice guy so you can trust me. haha

The woman's view versus the man's view...

You know i used to hear this sometimes, but not once have i had an experience where a girl liked to be treated wrongfully. However i did date a girl that needed to be treated like such not because of herself, but because in her past relationships she was treated that way and she didn't want things to go the same way but she expected that i would be the typical asshole type of guy. We broke up because i didn't wanna treat her like that and untill not too long ago (2 maybe 3 months ago) she still begged to date me (even when i was in a relationship). I'm not saying there aren't girls like that, but every girl is different and being a ass at first might be worst then being nice; Though i can see it vice and versa as well (being nice to a girl that likes to be treated wrong maybe a turnoff).

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My current girlfriend dated 2 huge assholes before she dated me. They were pompous, self-centered, emotionally unstable, whatever. What drew her to them was the fact that they basically made her date them.

With enough persistance she felt wanted, and with those types of guys they make all the decisions and talk and talk and convince them that everything is alright. The girls never have a say in the relationship, all the while they're trying to "fix" them, and the only thing they ever have to do is not break up with them. Which is usually easy because if they ever tried they'd be scorned or convinced not to.

It's fucking stupid, but guys can be scary and retarded, and the way relationships work these days I can see why the fuck-hole guys get girls who "love" them. They don't love them, they're just terrified of them, and they think they're happy and that's how it's supposed to be.

from personal experience you have to judge the type of girl she is. if shes sick hot she obviously knows it. normally what i do with girls that are like outta my league or really really good looking is tend to treat them like meh they're just another pile of skin and bones and it usually works. you will notice them trying to fish compliments off you or tease you but just dont give em any and chances are you will get into her head. once that happens its ez. For the cute shy girls normally its better be be a nice guy and actually who you really are. these are the girls you can actually settle down with and really have a good time and not just a hot fuck lol anyways thats about it from my side :P good luck man. i would definatly ask her to do something. i wouldnt go coffee...i personally find that cliché obvious and unoriginal. if you have cash and live in a hot area ask her to go scuba diving or something most people wouldnt do the first time you ask someone out.women love creative ideas. But remember its all in the way you ask it and what tone you use. God speed~

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I have a problem with this myself. When I really like a girl I treat her extremely nice. It's just who I am...I'm a very nice guy irl to people I like. Probably too nice. I can't help it.

When I don't like a girl, I usually ignore her after we get it on (I'm good at blowing people off). If I do speak to her it's something rude when I'm drunk and annoyed.

Sadly enough - the girls I dislike and treat like crap/ignore, end up liking me A LOT more than the ones I treat nice and pay attention to. I'm talking like 90% of the time fo realz. It's sad how true that shit is. Girls like you more when you treat them like crap.

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you know what sucks, i get alot of the "you're to nice" shit, and it pisses me the hell off.. so lately i've been more of a dickhead, and yes, more girls are attracted to me cause i just baiscly blow them off, but its not me.. so idk how much longer i can put up this front.. although now i've gotten the response from alot of women too "you're a fucking asshole".

do women even know what they really want?

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Yeah Im with Matti on this one. If shes a bitch, treat her like one. Thats what she wants, regardless of what she thinks she wants. that or just dont give her the time of day, and make sure she knows youre doing that (but not intentionally lol).

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oh, i forgot to mention, those girls that call me a fucking asshole, tend to keep calling back more often. i dont get that either.

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On a lighter note, I would suggest that you ask her out for a cup of coffee in a light-hearted way and maybe make a joke about how your elevator convo was so short and weird around other people. Have coffee and whatever happens, just go with the flow. That's how I handle dating situations and it usually works. The "go with the flow" mentality is great!

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Not this time, nancy-boy!

some good advice in here. I'd say take matti, sunshine, and fuir's advice, toss them in a blender, and see what you come up with. A nice combo of a possible sweetness, and possible asshole/cockiness, with just the right amount of humor and being able to roll-with-the-punches thrown in for good measure. You wanna be like Rocky "It ain't about how hard you hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward" most of all don't wanna show any sign of interest just yet, like MAYBE a LITTLE "friendly flirting" that could be interpreted either way (she will get it, but don't worry if she doesn't react.) You don't want her thinking that you're sprung for her right away cuz then she's going to lose all interest (I dunno why chicks do this, but I guess I've had similar feelings when a girl all of a sudden went ga-ga over me before I even knew her.) I seen your pic, you're a pretty good looking dude, just be confident and don't sweat her, know that you can walk across the street to your dad's job and meet an even hotter chick there.

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Wow, I honestly didnt expect so many good replies, I love you guys lol. If anything happens between me and her i'll be sure to keep you all posted!

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When I posted a pic on ffxiplayers that was actually my first thought. "Shit, my pic is right next to a good looking black dude."
True story. lol

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lol awww you guys... only if more women agreed with you...

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Good luck and have fun! Make sure you're clean too. lol Girls LOVE hygiene.

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Not this time, nancy-boy!

dont forget about the good tips here

and what is seriously up with that? theres 1 girl i love above everything else and i try to be a big teddy bear around her and every other girl i just try to ignore and try to ignore but after 6 yrs girl i love still hates me and after 1 yr of ignoring other girls they like me

o.O

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"all men die, and no brave man lets death frighten him from his desires"

and why is it that if i treat girls all the same way, the older girls tend to like me, girls my age tend to either hate or like me, and younger girls like me? O.o

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"all men die, and no brave man lets death frighten him from his desires"

just the way it works mg

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DeeJay another possibility you can have is just be 100% professional and straight with her. A lot of women like a guy who knows what he wants. For example: you can say this; look i find your very attractive and would love to take you out for "dinner" sometime. this way you will get her honest answer and if its yes congratulations you pulled it off you can breathe. if its no consider yourself having saved countless hours and money from constant teasing and beating around the bush for answers hopeing one day she will like you. i find that way works a lot better then trying to go the whole 9 yards.

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actually fuir is right, that tends to work really well too, you sometimes have to cut the bullshit aside, cause i mean really, a girl knows if shes interested in you a short while after actually meeting each you. if that doesnt work, a little persistance isnt bad.

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